Err Hello! Advice needed.

Dear Anne,

'I had an ex girlfriend, and she broke up with me a while ago, and I'm
barely hurting over it, but not much.
A few weeks ago, I met this other girl, who rocked my world.
She was sweet, she texted back, she was actually another romantic. And
we had a LOT in common!
We went out for a little over a week, but we both realized that we're
not ready for it. I'm still hurt from my ex, and she's still hurt from
hers. So we broke up. Decided to stay friends for now.
But I'm getting over my 1st ex really fast, because this girl got my
mind off of her.
I was checking my voicemails, and found one she had left me from the
short time that we went out, and she said that she misses me and is
sad that she missed the chance to talk to me. She said that she cant
wait to see me again and that she misses me(again).
It made my feelings for her skyrocket. I know I should wait a few
weeks before asking her about "Us" but in the mean time... Should I
try to talk to her casually or not? I know that if I l don't start a
conversation, I'll somehow pop into her mind, because I wouldn't be
texting her normally like we used to. But I'm stuck..
Care to help a guy out?

-A.H.'


AWNSER:Hi A.H. :),
I think you should'nt be afraid to keep talking to this girl. Maybe
you should'nt go all the way just yet, but don't completely leave her
out either.
If she really likes you like you like her, who knows maybe she is
having the same problem :)
But although that's possible, you still should'nt be so
confident just to make shure. Give her some space so she can
completely get over her ex, yet talk to her as a good friend.
You must be patient! Because having a girl that is completely in to
you is better then having a girl who is only partly in to you right?
With that said, still don't be afraid to talk to her. Be her friend
improve your relationship. Don't over do it though :P
Here's a bad example:
" Hey hotstuff i miss you, want to hang out?"
Here's a good example:
" Hey (insert her name here) how are you? Want to text?"
Oh and most importantly, be shure your over YOUR ex first. I'm pretty
shure you are but just to be safe, you don't want any old feelings to
pop up when you least expect it.
I hope everything goes well,
Love,
Anne.

I'm just not sure

Dear Anne

So basically, I'm not sure if this guy likes me or not.  We've known each other for 3 years but we only started talking to one another last year.  We go to different high schools, so we rarely see each other.  Right now, we finally have time to spend with each other and we've been talking a lot more- like whenever we can (and we're constantly around other friends). I enjoy his company and I think he does too. He always makes me smile and laugh XD. One day, one of my friends said, "I think he likes you." This sorta got me a bit paranoid about the idea.  I don't know if i like him (i was having some problems in the past which made me a bit deattached to my feelings but all is better now :).  Anyways, now the idea of it has been on my mind a lot. I know he cares for me but i just don't know if he actually likes me (i could be making a huge mistake here). Plus, I'm not gonna hear from him for a while (he's on vacation) and there's a good chance we won't see each other for a long time.  I'm kinda not sure what to do too.

-thanks

A.S.

AWNSER:

Hello A.S :),

Well I'm kinda torn here, and am not entirely shure what you're question is... You want to know if this guy likes you or not.

 First of, do you like him ? Think about it. You want to know if he likes you , but do you know what your going to do after you do find out?

  Oh the famous question that every one wishes to know "Do they like me?" 

I think you alredy know the awnser but your just too scared to be wrong. I know this is probbably the worst thing I can tell you, but you need to ask him yourself. No other person can give you a more accurate awnser, then himself. If your too shy to talk to him in person, maybe text him. Ofcourse, don't just randomnly ask him. Start a conversation about crushes and try to ease out the awnser from him. That's my advice on knowing if he likes you.

Theirs also body language, but you say you hardly see him and you're hardly alone so I don't think he'd be able to show so much of that.

  Now ask yourself, do you really want to know? You say he's leaving soon, so maybe things are better untold. Long distance relationships usually end up shattering, so to avoid it all maybe you should just stop now while you can.

In the end, it's up to you what you're going to do. What YOU think is best.

Good luck <3,

Anne    

I need advice :\

Dear Anne,

    So, I'm a 14 year old girl and I love my best guy friend. I told him I like him and he told me that he didn't want to ruin our friendship and friends is all he really wants to be. He's kind of a flirt to a lot of different girls and I've heard things about him that aren't very good. Apparently he's had sex(he's only 14 also) and he's done other things along those lines. He also does weed and smokes cigarettes. But I know that there's more to him than that. I know he really is a good person, and he's tried to change, but it's hard for him because this is a lifestyle he's become accustomed to. I've been told to move on because he's not worth it...but I've also been told to fight for him. One of my friends told me she thinks he's lying but I don't think he is...especially since he's not completely over his ex-girlfriend. What should I do? I'm really torn here.

Thanks,

      Chelsie

AWNSER:

To start let me just say I'm so sorry for such a late response but I've been so busy these days :(

Well hello :) I personally think that maybe you should back off, if he said himself that he just wants to be friends, he probbably just wants to be friends. Maybe he isn't over his ex just yet. Give him some time. 

  About him being a bad influence, I don't think that should stop you from fighting for him. If you truly believe what he does he doesn't mean then you're probbably right since you've known him the longest. (I'm guessing you guys are very close)

But although I think you should fight for him , I also think you should wait a little before you start. I'm guessing he's either not over his old gilfriend yet, or not into you yet. But be patient. Boys have a different way of seeing things and you could both be wanting totally different things right now. You might be wanting a relationship while he wants time to himself. 

    Talk to him, if you feel you need to. Just to make shure. 

Good luck <3

Sincerely, 

Anne