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Worrying

Dear Anne,
Well, I am a 15 just to let you know. But me and my
boyfriend dated for about 5 months in the last school
year and then we broke up and we talked all summer
and what not. Now as the new school year has come
we are going back out and this time is much much
better. There's only one problem...he wants to come
over to my house. You see the last time we dated we
didn't really hang out much, outside of school. Now
that things are way more serious, it should be normal
for a girlfriend and boyfriend to hang out outside of
school. The main problem is, I live in a mobile home
and he lives in a really nice neighbor hood. I know
that it shouldn't matter becuase he's my boyfriend
but I'm so scared to invite him over. I don't know
what he'll say, it's killing me and I don't have any
confidence in this. What should I do?

-M
AWNSER:




Hi M,
This sounds just like something that happened to me.
I lived in a trailer, and my bestfriend lived in a fancy
two story house. I never invited her to my house
because I was embarassed of what she would think.
But then it hit me. Theirs a reason why shes my
bestfriend right? Because she would never judge me.
So i invited her over. And once she came, all my
worrys seemed so stupid. What was I so worried
about? The thing about bestfriends is that they would
never judge you over such superficial things.

So now in your case, its all the same except that he's
your boyfriend. Just remind yourself why your with
him in the first place. The way I see this, nothing but
good can come out of this; if he doesnt freak, you
guys will be closer then ever, and if he does, youll
know that he isnt the right guy right? You would'nt
want a guy that freaks over such a little thing.


Even though he probbably wont mind,if you havent told him you live in a
trailer he will still probbably be surprised. While your
inviting him over, just joke with him about how he
should'nt expect anything big. Just kind of leave clues
as jokes, so that he won't be as surprised when he
gets their.

OH!
And most importantly make shure you dont worry
about all of this. I know it might seem so nerve
racking at first but trust me, once it happens it
will be like all of your worrys were about nothing.
Good luck!
Love,
Anne

Err Hello! Advice needed.

Dear Anne,

'I had an ex girlfriend, and she broke up with me a while ago, and I'm
barely hurting over it, but not much.
A few weeks ago, I met this other girl, who rocked my world.
She was sweet, she texted back, she was actually another romantic. And
we had a LOT in common!
We went out for a little over a week, but we both realized that we're
not ready for it. I'm still hurt from my ex, and she's still hurt from
hers. So we broke up. Decided to stay friends for now.
But I'm getting over my 1st ex really fast, because this girl got my
mind off of her.
I was checking my voicemails, and found one she had left me from the
short time that we went out, and she said that she misses me and is
sad that she missed the chance to talk to me. She said that she cant
wait to see me again and that she misses me(again).
It made my feelings for her skyrocket. I know I should wait a few
weeks before asking her about "Us" but in the mean time... Should I
try to talk to her casually or not? I know that if I l don't start a
conversation, I'll somehow pop into her mind, because I wouldn't be
texting her normally like we used to. But I'm stuck..
Care to help a guy out?

-A.H.'


AWNSER:Hi A.H. :),
I think you should'nt be afraid to keep talking to this girl. Maybe
you should'nt go all the way just yet, but don't completely leave her
out either.
If she really likes you like you like her, who knows maybe she is
having the same problem :)
But although that's possible, you still should'nt be so
confident just to make shure. Give her some space so she can
completely get over her ex, yet talk to her as a good friend.
You must be patient! Because having a girl that is completely in to
you is better then having a girl who is only partly in to you right?
With that said, still don't be afraid to talk to her. Be her friend
improve your relationship. Don't over do it though :P
Here's a bad example:
" Hey hotstuff i miss you, want to hang out?"
Here's a good example:
" Hey (insert her name here) how are you? Want to text?"
Oh and most importantly, be shure your over YOUR ex first. I'm pretty
shure you are but just to be safe, you don't want any old feelings to
pop up when you least expect it.
I hope everything goes well,
Love,
Anne.

I'm just not sure

Dear Anne

So basically, I'm not sure if this guy likes me or not.  We've known each other for 3 years but we only started talking to one another last year.  We go to different high schools, so we rarely see each other.  Right now, we finally have time to spend with each other and we've been talking a lot more- like whenever we can (and we're constantly around other friends). I enjoy his company and I think he does too. He always makes me smile and laugh XD. One day, one of my friends said, "I think he likes you." This sorta got me a bit paranoid about the idea.  I don't know if i like him (i was having some problems in the past which made me a bit deattached to my feelings but all is better now :).  Anyways, now the idea of it has been on my mind a lot. I know he cares for me but i just don't know if he actually likes me (i could be making a huge mistake here). Plus, I'm not gonna hear from him for a while (he's on vacation) and there's a good chance we won't see each other for a long time.  I'm kinda not sure what to do too.

-thanks

A.S.

AWNSER:

Hello A.S :),

Well I'm kinda torn here, and am not entirely shure what you're question is... You want to know if this guy likes you or not.

 First of, do you like him ? Think about it. You want to know if he likes you , but do you know what your going to do after you do find out?

  Oh the famous question that every one wishes to know "Do they like me?" 

I think you alredy know the awnser but your just too scared to be wrong. I know this is probbably the worst thing I can tell you, but you need to ask him yourself. No other person can give you a more accurate awnser, then himself. If your too shy to talk to him in person, maybe text him. Ofcourse, don't just randomnly ask him. Start a conversation about crushes and try to ease out the awnser from him. That's my advice on knowing if he likes you.

Theirs also body language, but you say you hardly see him and you're hardly alone so I don't think he'd be able to show so much of that.

  Now ask yourself, do you really want to know? You say he's leaving soon, so maybe things are better untold. Long distance relationships usually end up shattering, so to avoid it all maybe you should just stop now while you can.

In the end, it's up to you what you're going to do. What YOU think is best.

Good luck <3,

Anne    

I need advice :\

Dear Anne,

    So, I'm a 14 year old girl and I love my best guy friend. I told him I like him and he told me that he didn't want to ruin our friendship and friends is all he really wants to be. He's kind of a flirt to a lot of different girls and I've heard things about him that aren't very good. Apparently he's had sex(he's only 14 also) and he's done other things along those lines. He also does weed and smokes cigarettes. But I know that there's more to him than that. I know he really is a good person, and he's tried to change, but it's hard for him because this is a lifestyle he's become accustomed to. I've been told to move on because he's not worth it...but I've also been told to fight for him. One of my friends told me she thinks he's lying but I don't think he is...especially since he's not completely over his ex-girlfriend. What should I do? I'm really torn here.

Thanks,

      Chelsie

AWNSER:

To start let me just say I'm so sorry for such a late response but I've been so busy these days :(

Well hello :) I personally think that maybe you should back off, if he said himself that he just wants to be friends, he probbably just wants to be friends. Maybe he isn't over his ex just yet. Give him some time. 

  About him being a bad influence, I don't think that should stop you from fighting for him. If you truly believe what he does he doesn't mean then you're probbably right since you've known him the longest. (I'm guessing you guys are very close)

But although I think you should fight for him , I also think you should wait a little before you start. I'm guessing he's either not over his old gilfriend yet, or not into you yet. But be patient. Boys have a different way of seeing things and you could both be wanting totally different things right now. You might be wanting a relationship while he wants time to himself. 

    Talk to him, if you feel you need to. Just to make shure. 

Good luck <3

Sincerely, 

Anne

Just wondering

Dear Anne...

Hi, i saw you have a blog where you give people some good advice. i kinda would like to get a girls advice about something kinda private that i don't want the whole world to know about, like my mom and dad...lol


my gf (13) and i have been messing around more and more when we are alone together. i just have a couple of questions about a few things that i'd like to ask some girl who can help me out so i don't feel so dumb about certian things when me and my gf are having a nice time being alone together. she's had two bfs before and had sex with them. i've not had sex before, and kinda not to sure about how fast we should go. last time we messed around she kinda seemed like she wanted to have sex, but we couldn't because my parents got home before we got that far. i am thinking about talking to her about it. do you think its a good idea to ask her if she wanted to have sex if my parents had not come home? (my parents didn't suspect anything, they just thought we were watching a movie).


i was surpised when she told me she had sex with the other two bfs because she's a very nice girl. she kinda told a little about it, saying she was in love and felt like she was ready.




thanks for any advice you might have.

From, bob


AWNSER:
hi bob :)

Well first just be shure your ready, and your not doing it to show off or because you feel you need to do it because that would bring problems you dont need. But other then that i think it would be good to ask her, she would probbably be honest about it since she sounds like a confident girl. The worst she could say is no right?


And your probbably already aware, but its illegal for you guys to have sex at your age. You would get in a lot of trouble since your the oldest. I just want to make shure you know

If you want to know ways to make her like happy you can look it up online , just look for what her astrological sign is.
Some dont believe in those things but i do because what they say about me is so true and all the info i put was my sign! haha just an idea


Your girl sounds really nice & so do you so I know things will go well.

Good luck , im allways happy to help c:

Love, Anne

I think my boyfriends cheating on me...

Dear Anne,
Hi, uhm yea the title says it all... Here is why i think he is:
-hes not himself anymore
-he doesnt even text me anymore
-i saw him laughing with another girl last week and when hes with me its like he doesnt even smile


I dont know whats wrong! Is it me? Maybe he got tired of me? What do i do?

Sincerely,
Someone from Utah

AWNSER:

Hi someone ;) Im going to just start with it and say, I don't think hes cheating on you. I think he might be planning on breaking up with you . Some guys tend to do that, before they break up with you they let the relationship cool off first.


I might be wrong, other things could explain his wierd behaving. It could be anything from drugs to family problems. So before jumping to conclusions, ask him. I know asking him was the last thing you wanted to do, but if you want a 100% accurate awnser it has to come from him.


NEVER, come to the conclusion that it is your fault! It's easy to do but blaming your self won't make it any better. If he does break up with you, then just move on. The right boy will one day come for you, so allways keep your smile on because you never know when that will be. :)

Love,
Anne

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My friends keep backstabbing me

Dear Anne,

Hi, i have more then one problem, but their all about the same thing. My friends keep backstabbing me! I think they are true friends, but then when i least expect it they start spreading rumors about me. Why? What do I do?

Love becka from cali


AWNSER:

Hi Becka! Let me start off by saying to not get mad. I know it seems hard, but anger will only make the situation seem worse.
I think the problem here is that you are hanging out with the wrong people. Think to yourself"Would i do what all of them did?"
If you yourself would back stab someone else, then sadly your with the group you belong with. Maybe you should consider changing who you hang out with overall? But first make sure, you change who YOU are.
If you wouldn't back stab your own friends, then your in the wrong crew! The only way to get people to stop treating you bad is to stop being with them once they do. Am i making sense? To avoid bad things get away from those who are bad.
Many might advice you to maybe get back at them with something ruthless ,but let me say that to those who have hurt you, seeing you happy is the best revenge you can take :)

Take care
Love, Anne

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