I need advice :\

Dear Anne,

    So, I'm a 14 year old girl and I love my best guy friend. I told him I like him and he told me that he didn't want to ruin our friendship and friends is all he really wants to be. He's kind of a flirt to a lot of different girls and I've heard things about him that aren't very good. Apparently he's had sex(he's only 14 also) and he's done other things along those lines. He also does weed and smokes cigarettes. But I know that there's more to him than that. I know he really is a good person, and he's tried to change, but it's hard for him because this is a lifestyle he's become accustomed to. I've been told to move on because he's not worth it...but I've also been told to fight for him. One of my friends told me she thinks he's lying but I don't think he is...especially since he's not completely over his ex-girlfriend. What should I do? I'm really torn here.

Thanks,

      Chelsie

AWNSER:

To start let me just say I'm so sorry for such a late response but I've been so busy these days :(

Well hello :) I personally think that maybe you should back off, if he said himself that he just wants to be friends, he probbably just wants to be friends. Maybe he isn't over his ex just yet. Give him some time. 

  About him being a bad influence, I don't think that should stop you from fighting for him. If you truly believe what he does he doesn't mean then you're probbably right since you've known him the longest. (I'm guessing you guys are very close)

But although I think you should fight for him , I also think you should wait a little before you start. I'm guessing he's either not over his old gilfriend yet, or not into you yet. But be patient. Boys have a different way of seeing things and you could both be wanting totally different things right now. You might be wanting a relationship while he wants time to himself. 

    Talk to him, if you feel you need to. Just to make shure. 

Good luck <3

Sincerely, 

Anne